Hello!
I post kinky shit. Some is legitimately disturbing. I in NO WAY condone real world violence or abuse, against women or ANYONE. So don't do it. 'Kay? Always get consent. Always know the limits.
Enjoy <3***DOs & DON'Ts***Please DO:~ Leave your honest critique and feedback!
~ Reach out to me if you feel alone, overwhelmed, or shameful about your BDSM interest. I'm here to support you!
~ Ask questions about BDSM, and I'll try to answer to the best of my ability.
~ Teach me about new fetishes I'm not familiar with.
~ Request drawings, within my laid out guidelines.
~ Ask to collaborate, I'll definitely at least consider it.
~ Reach out if you just want to chat (given the following DON'T requests).
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Separate me from my work. Almost everything I post on this account is sexual-related in some way, but I, as a real, living, breathing, dynamic human being, do not want to be seen in any similar light to my subjects, or as prey. BDSM is my fantasy, not my real life. I am a regular human being who is not horny 24/7, and that does not change when you chat directly with me, or about me, through DeviantArt.
Please DON'T:~ Post, edit, or sell my work without explicit permission and conditions from myself.
~ Ask about my genitalia or intimate life with my boyfriend.
~ Comment rudely on my body. Please instead comment on the technical or creative aspects of the photo itself. I'm here to share art, not get insulted or objectified
~ Discuss, joke or ask about any hypothetical situation in which I personally am in, or put others in, bondage. Doing so about
characters is completely fine. I draw the line when it's personal. Involving myself feels uncomfortable and predatory and sets off a red flag, even if just in passing remarks. I will not hold innocently-intended discussion against you (i.e. "so how do you like to be tied up?" or "how often do you practice self-bondage?"), but I will have a problem with things like "how about I come over there to tie you up" or "you need a good kidnapping/whipping/foot licking", etc. There's a nuanced difference, but it means the difference between normal curiosity and unwanted foolery.
~ Flirt with me. Everyone on here is "friend-zoned", just saying that up-front.
~ Leave nasty or otherwise non-constructive negative comments. Constructive negative feedback is totally welcome, but downright insults are not.
~ Share any moralistic, anti-BDSM opinions with me in a nasty manner. I'm willing to discuss it with you if you're civil and open to understanding, but I don't want to hear about God's opinion or how I'm allegedly encouraging abuse.
In Summary:Respect me and my claim to my work, and just treat me like a normal human being
Not a target, not a conquest, not a potential partner, not a submissive, not an obsessed BDSM-machine. Pretty simple, aye? :D
If you feel attacked or daunted by this list, and are well-meaning, then please see the last "FAQ" entry.***REQUEST INFO & DISCLAIMERS***~ REQUESTS ARE CURRENTLY CLOSED (due to several on my plate) ~~ I only take drawing requests, but you may choose between digital, pencil, or ink media.
~ I do not take furry/anthro requests, with an exception for kemonomimi.
~ I do not take requests for explicit genital depictions. Genitals can be included, but not, for example, "draw just two penises touching each other" or "draw a close-up mouth on a vagina". The main reason is that I am not skilled in drawing genitals. It will look terrible, especially in large size.
~ I do not take offensive requests, such as things like Nazi porn (yes, I've seen it before!).
~ I reserve the right to decline any request for any reason, with or without an explanation.
~ I do not accept deadlines. I may take months to get around to a request and finish it -- but hey, it's still free! I will not, however, decide to abandon a request once I've already agreed to it. That's just not fair to you.
~ I will send you a note when I do finish it, put it in a special gallery folder, and credit your username for the concept unless otherwise asked not to.
~ I will not watermark requests, but I reserve the right to post requests I've drawn in my own Featured folder or not. Further, those who requested the drawing also have the right to post it in their gallery or not, given that they credit me somewhere on the image or in the title or description. I also permit sharing of the drawing elsewhere online, as long as it is still credited to my DA username and is not used for monetary gain. You may print (i.e. posters, etc), edit, and reproduce a request I've drawn for you as long as I am credited wherever possible.
These rules do not apply to any non-request drawing in my gallery, nor to requests I've drawn for anyone who isn't you. For these, please ask me for explicit permission to use them in any way. Thank you!~ I will not accept payment or reimbursement for requests. If you take it upon yourself to offer or send me points or Core membership, I will appreciate it but will not consider it payment and will not allow that to push me to get it done faster or draw rejected subject matter.
~ Ignorance of the above information is not an excuse to harass me about deadlines, rejected subject matter, or using payment to pressure me to meet such demands. If conflict arises, I will point the person to read this section.
***FAQ***Q: Are you dominant or submissive?
A: I relate more to submissive, but I don't practice real life BDSM and don't intend to.
Q: Do you roleplay?
A: No. Unless you're talking about D&D :D
Q: What is your real name?
A: I will only go by my pen name, Isidra. Sorry!
Q: What is your favorite way to be tied up / ideal BDSM situation?
A: I don't get tied up, and am actually uncomfortable discussing hypothetical situations in which I get tied up. This is why I leave myself out of my fantasies, and instead create fictional characters. Most photos I post are manipulated to distance them from reality, and all of them depict me as a fictional character rather than myself. As for fantasy situations, however, my favorite scenarios generally shift with my mood and current inspiration, and will come out in my drawings and writing!
Q: What got you into BDSM?
A: Being born! But in all seriousness, I touch on this in my "Accepting My Bondage Fascination" piece. I've always had the fascination and it developed into a sexual context with natural puberty. No abuse, no tragic backstory, no early porn exposure, no triggering incident, etc. A completely natural process of intrigue and discovery!
Q: Do you take requests?
A: Yes! Only drawing requests, however. Within drawings, you can request whether I use digital, pencil, or ink media. I do not take writing or photography requests.
Q: Do you mind being interviewed / do you mind reading or critiquing my story?
A: I am absolutely open to being interviewed in a text-only format! However, I will not voice or video call. As for reading/critiquing stories, I probably would love to, but you must let me take my time. I tend to be busy and ADHD makes it difficult to focus on text for too long.
Q: Do you have other social media?
A: Yes, but I will likely not share it with you. I highly value my privacy. Again, sorry.
Q: Will you voice/video call?
A: No. It's too stressful and I want to preserve my privacy.
Q: Do you want to chat about BDSM?
A: I'm totally up to chat about BDSM as long as it's not creepy! "Don't"s regarding this are listed above, and are primarily directed toward those who feel more flirtatious or sexually playful. (If this isn't you, then you're fine). Just also keep in mind that my life doesn't revolve around BDSM, so if you intend to chat for an extended period of time, I will also want to talk about other things like any regular person!
Q: How should I punish you / do I have to come over there and tie you up / what kind of gag is in order / do I need to shut you up with tape / would a good kidnapping help your problem / can you send me your clothes / etc.?
A: No. No. No. Please do not say these things, in either question or comment form. It feels creepy and it makes me uncomfortable. I don't find it arousing, cute, or funny. Some girls are okay with this kind of talk, and even receptive to it, so I will give the benefit of the doubt in case someone hasn't read this, or in case they don't realize how creepy it actually sounds. I will promptly identify the problem and request that they stop, though not hold it against them. But if it continues after that, I will consider it direct disrespect to me, call them out again, and either slow down or completely stop communication depending on my discomfort level. I simply am not like that, so I'm being up-front about it now. Thank you for understanding.
As a rule of thumb:
If you're talking about someone else or a character, it's fine.
If you're talking about me personally, it feels extremely awkward, uncomfortable, and potentially predatory.
If you're making normal discussion or asking legitimate questions, it's fine.
If you're trying to be suggestive or sexually funny, charm me, get me to roleplay, guilt me for attention/affection, or otherwise tease or flirt, we're going to have a problem.Thank you
If you feel attacked or daunted by this, please see below.Q: Wait... does that mean I can't say anything to you, ask you anything personal, or talk to you about BDSM at all?
A: Absolutely not! If you're well-meaning, you have nothing to worry about. If you accidentally say or ask something past my limits, I will let you know before I judge you. But chances are, if your intent isn't to be creepy, and you respect my requests to stop if it does come off that way, then you're fine. A lot of well-meaning people might feel daunted by my "DON'T" list, simply because they have not seen the extent of uncomfortable things I've been told or asked before, and have not seen the extent to which people have ignored my requests to stop over, and over, and over again. If you respect me as an equal and dynamic human being, who is separate from the submissives I draw and write about, then don't be worried. That's all I want, really.Thank you for reading and visiting!